Today’s Version of the Proverbs 31 Woman

I don’t know about you but just the thought of keeping up with the Proverbs 31 woman exhausts me. Simply reading all that she does is tiring. One thing I did notice is her servant girls and how she provided for them. While we don’t have servant girls today (no your kids don’t count this time), we do have more help than she did.
Our household servants come in the form of Maytag and Frigidaire and believe it or not Sears and Walmart. She had her own garden and made clothes for herself and her family. Here is the deal though. At that time it was cheaper to make your own clothing than it was to go buy it from somewhere else. The same can be said for the garden if you do not have the available property to create one.

I do not have a staff of servant girls (and I am rarely up before dawn!), but I do have household servants. So do you, although yours may differ slightly from mine. I have a crock-pot, a bread machine, a clothes washer and dryer, a dishwasher, etc. These make up my household staff. If I have a load of laundry in the washing machine, another load in the dryer (or on the clothesline), the dishwasher is running, and the crock-pot is crocking away, I know I can sit down for a few minutes Guilt-Free, because tasks are being taken care of for me! Clothing and dishes are being cleaned and food is being cooked, enabling “me” to be in several places at once.

I try to get “my staff” working as soon as possible each day, because then I can feel quite productive — even if I am having a rather “slow” day personally. I can sit down with my kids to practice their reading or play a game, knowing that chores are getting done.

Back when my kids were smaller, I used to record my voice as I read a favorite storybook to my toddler. Later, when Mommy just could not be there, that mp3 could be replayed — allowing Little One to spend time with Mommy, hearing those favorites over and over, making the mp3 player another valued member of my helpful staff. Incidentally, my daughter got as much enjoyment from hearing her own reactions on the recording as from hearing me. I had also tried just reading stories into the recorder — without the child on my lap — but the result was undeniably flat and just no fun to listen to.

My children are also valuable members of my staff — Mom should never be working alone when all others are recreating!

I enjoy free time as much as the next person does; I just seem to get less of it. Kids can fold towels, sort underwear, scrub potatoes, and do plenty of other simple jobs so that Mom can be freed up for higher-skill jobs. Many times I have agreed to make a costume or other special request for one of my children only after they agreed to take over specific Mommy-tasks to give me the time required.

Barter is a great tool — use it to your advantage!

Many years have passed, but I still remember the shock on my friend’s face when her daughter wrote a paper for school about the hobbies her family members pursued. The daughter had listed Mom’s hobbies as cooking and cleaning. I knew that woman as being a very artsy person who loved craft projects, decorating, sewing, and scrounging through garage sales. We had great fun together going to those garage sales and parks with our children or at couples’ parties with our spouses. I knew she had many interests — why did her own daughter only see the cooking-and-cleaning side?

Perhaps it was because Mom had never pointed out what leisure time activities she did enjoy. Perhaps a little job-trading activity would have helped to clarify the fact that some chores benefit the entire family and can be accomplished by anyone in the family with the required skill. More than once I have accepted the offer of kid-prepared scrambled eggs for supper in return for mending something that child wanted to wear the next day.

We all need to re-examine the how and why of the things we do. Click To Tweet

Are perfectly folded towels really all that important once we close the linen closet door?

Will my family notice (or even care) if the cake they eat after supper has been imperfectly frosted by the Junior Chef or will they just be grateful for the rare treat of dessert?

How much better will I feel at the end of the day knowing we have clean underwear for tomorrow AND Little One got to snuggle on my lap through several story books?

Making use of time-saving appliances and a little work-together time can also save me some sanity and let me get on to enjoying some Guilt-Free activities that I have previously only dreamed about.

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Born in Kentucky, I am a wife and mom to 1 son and 2 daughters . I have an ink pen obsession, as well as a love for all things planner. I have been married for 10 years to my high school crush. I am a member of the church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints.

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