Your Lack of Planning Does Not Create An Emergency For Me – Or Does It?

Have you ever heard the saying, “Your lack of planning does not create an emergency for me?”  I love that saying and wish life really worked that way.  But it doesn’t.  The fact is that other people’s lack of planning creates emergencies for me all the time (and honestly, sometimes it’s me creating the emergencies!).  But if I refuse to help because they weren’t organized, I feel (and look) like a jerk.

So what do you do when you’re dealing with people who are chronically unorganized and keep creating emergencies for you?  Sometimes these strategies can help:

  • Anticipate.  Sometimes you can see the situation coming.  Because of past experience, you know what’s going to happen.  In that case, you prepare yourself mentally to deal with the emergency because now you know it is coming.
  • Plan Ahead.  This takes anticipating a step further.  You anticipate the emergency and you come up with a solution beforehand so it’s not an emergency for you.
  • Remind.  This one doesn’t always work but it’s worth a try.  If you know something’s coming up, remind the person involved in case they are willing to go ahead and act on it in a timely manner.  I’ve used this strategy a lot in the past.  Some people appreciate it and some don’t.  I worked with a music minister who did not appreciate it.  He was a fly-by-the-seat-of-your-pants person and any reminders felt like nagging and pushing.  I learned to back off and let the chips fall where they may.  It was very frustrating for me and I didn’t end up working with him much longer.
  • Do it yourself.  If you know what’s going to be needed, sometimes you can take care of it yourself.  Again, some people appreciate that and some don’t.  My boss at the law office where I worked loved it.  He’d come in at the last minute, tell me what he needed, and I already had it ready.  But he was unusual in that he was a great delegator.
  • Keep your routine tasks up to date so you can take the time to handle an emergency without creating a new emergency.  That same boss at the law office tended to throw last minute things at me all the time – many that I didn’t see coming.  So my daily strategy was to get as much of my regular work done as soon as possible so that when he threw an emergency at me, at least my regular work was caught up so I could focus on the emergency.

The bottom line is that not everyone is organized and that’s just the way it is.  Rather than fight it, it’s best to just accept it and do what you can to deal with it.  As Julie Morgenstern says:  “You can’t always control what life throws at you but you can control your response.”

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Born in Kentucky, I am a wife and mom to 1 son and 2 daughters . I have an ink pen obsession, as well as a love for all things planner. I have been married for 10 years to my high school crush. I am a member of the church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints.

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14 thoughts on “Your Lack of Planning Does Not Create An Emergency For Me – Or Does It?

    1. Thank you. I was a little nervous about publishing the article – I didn’t want it to sound mean.

      I’m not naturally organized either so I know what you mean about having to work really hard to stay on top of things. Sometimes it’s exhausting! But I really like having my ducks in a row so I guess it’s worth it – most of the time!

  1. Love this! soo true! Having 2 adult sons living in the house still, I run into this all the time. Mom “just” stays at home so she can fix the issues I create when my head is in the clouds. ugh… I didn’t raise them like that!!

    1. Yeah – it’s a common problem. I wish I was tougher and could just say “no” but I always try to make things work.

      Thanks for commenting.

  2. Thanks for this, Patty. My OH is one of those emergency creators. Like you, I try to get as much of my routine done, so when his emergencies come up, which seems to be a daily occurence, they don’t throw me too far off track.

  3. I’m very organized – no hate mail, please 😉 – but working with a volunteer organization, I have had to employ all the ideas above. It makes extra work for me, but means success for the organization. Great tips. Thanks.

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